A seemingly simple word, yet complicated and challenging to manifest.
A concept many of us daydream about, yet struggle to attain outside of our own vivacious fantasies.
A gift we wholeheartedly give and receive from birth, but somehow that childhood innocence disappears as we get older and our expectation of true love resembles the latest episode of The Bachelor/Bachelorette.
You know, the love story where 2 long lost soulmates get swept off their feet in a whirlwind romance of wild attraction + intense passion that ends with the final rose ceremony to the beginning of their happily ever after.
Ironically enough, real love never resembles that perfect fairytale.
Instead, real love is hard.
Real love is complicated.
And real love is painful.
Only having loved and lost do you begin to understand what love really is.
Only when you have no choice but to learn how to forgive the one you vulnerably shared your deepest darkest secrets with…only to have them shatter your heart to 1,000,000+1 pieces do you begin to understand the harsh reality of true love.
After all, loving someone who treats you well when everything is on the up and up is easy, but choosing to love someone who knowingly dumps salt on your wounds, and who pierces your heart in the most tender and sore of spots is the ultimate test of this crazy little thing called love.
In fact, the journey to love is a lesson in forgiveness.
It is a lesson in learning about who you really are.
And surprisingly, it is a lesson in faith where you learn how to live with humility and grace.
While the ego wants you to dwell in anger, sadness, hurt, pain, defeat, shame and hatred.
The heart yearns to be set free.
Within the inner depths of your soul, it seeks peace.
Peace. Knowing that there is a silver lining beneath it all because:
The truth is, the pain you feel in your heart is a pathway for you to shine your light.
A pathway for you to grow and be a better version of who you were yesterday.
A pathway to learning how to wholeheartedly love and appreciate all the imperfections of this world.
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With love + light,